'OUR FATHER LOVES US, FOR HE CALLS US HIS CHILDREN, AND THAT IS WHAT WE ARE.' 1 JOHN 3:1 NLT
Ever wonder how anybody could find you lovable? For many of us the question becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. The fear of rejection is so intense that we protect ourselves by:
(a) Vowing never to let anybody get close enough to hurt us again. Sounds good in theory, but by closing others out we close ourselves in, and all our relationships suffer.
(b) Putting on our best 'game face.' I'm tough! Who needs other people anyway? As a result nobody meets our needs.
(c ) Pushing others away. When we feel rejected we imagine we're being attacked even when we're not. So we put on our boxing gloves and come out swinging.
(d.) Trying to buy rejection-protection by doing favors to people. Or by putting up with abusive relationships because we think it's what we deserve and it may be our last chance at love.
(e) Practicing perfectionism. Give it up! God already loves you unconditionally, and human standards vary so much that you'll never make everybody happy however you try.
As long as you keep trading with a diminished sense of worth, you'll keep attracting the wrong people. So listen up. 'Our Father loves us, for he calls us his children and that is what we are.' And 'that's only the beginning...when Christ is...revealed, we'll...become like him' (1 John 3:2 TM). If your self-worth comes from any opinion other than God's, you'll always be vulnerable. Your critics will diminish you; trying and failing will keep you from arising again. Worst of all, you'll never discover or be discovered for the unique and wonderful person God made you to be.
Evangelist Philip Jegede’s Reading Courtesy of DWFT: Gal 5:23, 2 Thess 1:3-5, Phil 2: 1-4, Heb 11:23-27 www.mpbs247.org
Soul Food Reading: Gal 5:23, 2 Thess 1:3-5, Phil 2:1-4 , Heb 11:23-27